I don’t know if you have noticed but I don’t dive too deep into my personal life, I think there are somethings that should stay personal. But I feel I should give you an insight into what our life is like after we had a baby.
Before we had Hayden we would spend tons of time together, we lived together & worked pretty close by to each other. We went on holiday, date nights, days out, couples evenings.
I think the main thing you have to remember that we are all human.I asked a few people to share how they felt about their relationship after having a baby.
Mine and Marks relationship hasn’t changed that much since Paige was born, if anything its gotten stronger. We still get on very well and still plan to get married. The one thing that has changed is that we don’t have much time to ourselves anymore but we try to find ways to make it work when Paige is asleep. We both stare at Paige and still can’t believe that our love made her. That will always give us a special bond. Our relationship isn’t perfect and we sometimes snap at each other over little things because Paige might of had a bad night and we are tired but we don’t take it personally. We see our family as a team now Paige is here and we work together to support and accomplish things together.
After having Nolan I saw I side to my husband that I had never seen before! He was so amazing with Nolan, so helpful, and most of all really supportive! I honestly think its made our relationship grow stronger… It was a very big adjustment but we didn’t have any real problems as we always communicated our feelings, which I think is the main reason we have remained so strong!
Lindsey 27 London
The feelings I have after having are child are almost in explainable. I feel so much joy from deep inside. I’m not to bothered that I don’t get to go out with friends I have as much fun taking my boys out. And in terms of my relationship with 2 boys we don’t get much together or see eye to eye on certain things but we get on and do what we have to do for the boys.
1. Quality Time
But a good relationship requires time and intimacy so if you spend quality time with your other half before the baby arrives you know you can pick up from where you left off. You may not be able to go out several times a week but when you do have time. Its important to remember that you are still partners and not magically stopped to become parents.
Sometimes it can be slightly awkward. If there is a problem, there is no point in hiding it – the most important thing to do is to talk about it and if you need to laugh about it. The quality of anyone’s relationship could possible be sustained if the couple only shares fears and worries so share your positive feelings as well.
Now this is a difficult one, how fast a couple get back into the swing of things mainly depends on the us ladies. If we are physically and emotionally up to it. Not only was the birth of your baby somewhat traumatic in some cases, you are also left feeling extremely sore. So the healing process takes longer depending on each woman differently.
But she says the biggest threat to new parents’ sex lives is usually exhaustion. To be honest you’d rather go to sleep than have sex. that’s a combination of fatigue and unbalanced hormone levels.